人類內心3個最強大的敵人

For many people, self-improvement becomes somewhat of a hobby. These people know that by challenging themselves they stand to gain personally, professionally, financially, and spiritually. But why do other people stop trying to improve themselves? With so much to gain, what is it that prevents some folks from moving forward in life? When you get right down to it, there are three major bumps on the road to self-development. You need to know what they are and how to overcome them so you can reach your highest potential.

對許多人來說，自我提升可以算作一種愛好。這些人知道通過不斷挑戰自己，他們能在人格上、專業領域裏、經濟上和精神上得到提升。但爲什麼有些人卻停止提升自己呢？提升自己的收穫很多，但是什麼在阻止着人們在生活中前進？當你認真思考這件事的時候，就會發現在你進行自我提升的過程中會遇上三個主要的障礙。你必須要知道它們是什麼，並且知道如何去克服它們，這樣你才能激發你的高潛能。

1. Fear- This one emotion can stop someone before they ever get a chance to begin. Fear comes in many forms. There’s the fear of failure, the fear of rejection, the fear of change, the fear of success. The list goes on and on. Every time you step out of your comfort zone you’re going to feel fear. The problem is that the only way you can grow and improve is by stepping out of your comfort zone! A little fear can be a good thing. It lets you know you’re moving in the right direction.

恐懼，這種情緒能在人們得到機會並着手開始時阻止他們。恐懼的到來有多種形式。對失敗的恐懼，對被拒絕的恐懼，對改變的恐懼，對成功的恐懼。這個單子可以繼續列下去。每當你離開你的安全地帶時，恐懼感就會降臨。問題是，唯一能讓你成長和提升的方式就是離開你的安全地帶！些許的恐懼也許是好的。它會讓你知道你是否在對的方向前進。

2. Despair- This little bugger is often a side effect of failure. It’s that feeling that you’re no good, that you can’t do it, and that you were a fool for even trying. Whereas fear prevents people from ever trying, despair prevents people from ever trying again. In order to avoid despair, you need to embrace failure. When you try something new, you need to realize that you’re going to fail at first. In fact, you’ll probably fail a lot! Take these little failures as learning experiences that you can build into great successes! Don’t despair. Every time you fail brings you one step closer to your goal.

這混蛋通常是失敗的副作用。它正是那樣一種感覺：讓你感到自己一無是處、讓你覺得你做不成某事，甚至讓你覺得你曾嘗試過這事都是很愚蠢的。恐懼阻止你每次新的嘗試，而絕望阻止你再一次去嘗試。爲了避免絕望，你必須要正視失敗。當你去嘗試新鮮事物時，你必需要意識到，你的第一次嘗試將會以失敗告終。事實上，你很有可能會失敗很多次！把這些無足輕重的失敗當成是吸取經驗，你就會取得一系列巨大的成功！不要絕望。每一次的失敗會讓你更接近你的目標。

3. Fatalism- Fatalism is a way people rationalize despair. After a particularly hard failure you’ll hear people say thinks like, “I guess God just wants me to be a ditch digger.” Or, “This must be my lot in life.” These people see their destiny as fixed. The problem is, if you think your destiny is determined by someone or something else, you’ve lost all power in your life. You’ll never improve because you don’t think anything you do will help. This way of thinking can lead to depression in a hurry. Don’t think for a second that you deserve any less than the very best in life!

宿命論是人們合理化絕望的一個藉口。在經歷過慘痛的失敗後，你會聽到一些人說“我猜想上帝只是想讓我去成爲一個挖溝工人。”又或者，“這就是我的命吧。”。這些人把自己的命運看成是固定的。問題就在於，如果你認爲你的命運是由某人或者某事主宰的，你就會失去生命中的力量。你永遠也不會進步，因爲你不相信自己做的任何嘗試會帶來積極的改變。這種思維方式會很快地導致抑鬱症。決不能那樣想：你不值得獲得生命中最美妙的東西。

The best thing to combat fear, despair, and fatalism is knowledge. The more you analyze a fear, the more you realize how irrational it is. Then the fear loses power over you. The more you know about why you failed, the less likely you are to make the same mistake again. Failures become learning experiences. Finally, if you take time to learn about yourself and think about why you deserve to succeed, you become less and less likely to accept your “lot in life” and demand more.

知識是對抗恐懼、絕望和宿命論的最有利武器。你越深入地分析一種恐懼，你越會發現它的不合理之處。然後恐懼就不會再控制你。你對你失敗的原因分析得越透徹，你就越不可能犯同樣的錯誤。這樣，失敗開始成爲經驗。最終，如果你花點時間去認識你自己，並且思考自己成功的原因，你就會越來越不會接受“命中註定要失敗”這個觀點，反而會想要得到更多更多的東西。