直面慘淡的人生:躲不過的殘酷事實(1)
1. No One Is Going to Fix You
If you are waiting for a knight in shining armor to gallop into your life and heal your broken heart, you will be waiting forever. The only person who can help you is yourself. Be happy for the other people in your life, but do not become dependent on them for happiness unlike you like to be on a never-ending emotional roller-coaster that is far beyond the realm of your control.
如果你還在期盼白馬王子帥氣闖入你的生活、呵護你受傷的心靈，那你只能永遠等待下去了。能夠救你的人只有你自己。你可以爲生活中有人陪伴而開心，但不要因此把幸福完全託付給他們；否則，你的情緒會像不停歇的過山車，永遠無法自我控制。Are you alone? No, far from it. But no one is going to fix you, so it is in your best interest to take personal responsibility for your own life. When you do that, you’ll discover you are more powerful than you ever thought possible.
還是一個人？哈，更殘酷的是，不會有誰來拯救你。所以，你最好還是爲自己負起責任吧。只有這樣，你纔會發現自己變得愈加堅強。
2. Life Will Never Be Perfect
生活並不完美If you are waiting for the “right” time to do something — pursue self-employment, begin a fitness plan, dive into the dating pool, or move to a new town — you’re going to be waiting forever. There is no such thing as a “right” time to do anything. This reaction is based on your fear-of-change, plain and simple.
如果你還在等待“最佳時機”去做某事——諸如創業、健身、戀愛或搬去新城市，那你也只能這麼等待下去了。世上根本就沒有所謂的“最佳時機”，你之所以這麼想，完全是因爲自己害怕改變，只想簡單舒服混日子罷了。If you keep waiting for that mysterious “perfect time to act” (please tell me, when have you ever experienced such a thing?), this means you will never actually have to take action and confront your fear. Do the scary thing. You will be so glad you did.
如果你一直在等待傳說中的“最佳行動時機”（請問，你可曾真正親身經歷過呢？），那你永遠都不會直面內心恐懼並拿出行動來。現在就去做“可怕的”事情吧！相信你做了以後絕不會後悔。3. You Might Fail (a Lot)
你可能會失敗（很多次）If you attempt to achieve an ambitious new goal, then it is possible that you will fall on your face while pursuing said goal. Welcome to reality. It’s time to change your thinking about failure.
如果你雄心萬丈想征服新目標，那你極可能在努力的過程中摔得鼻青臉腫。回到現實，改變自己對失敗的看法吧。It is not a big, bad thing that you should be frightened of. Failure is a learning opportunity and nothing more. If successful people quit pursuing their goal after failing the first time they tried something new, then there would be approximately zero successful people ever. There is no such thing as a “hole-in-one” in life. Do you want to know how many times I’ve failed? Over a hundred.
失敗並不是多麼糟糕透頂的大事，你完全沒必要害怕。失敗只是一次學習的機會罷了。如果成功的人因剛開始嘗試新鮮事物遭遇挫折而放棄夢想，那他們很可能就一事無成，何談成功二字！生活中從來就沒有“一發即中” 這回事。你知道我失敗過多少次嗎？上百次。The only reason I’ve managed to accomplish anything is because I am a firm believer in continuous improvement. If you fail in something, distance from the event for a day or two, because agonizing over the problem will not make it go away (and will make it a lot worse). Read a good book, catch up with some friends you haven’t seen in a long time, or go on a nature hike. You will be able to look at the issue with a fresh perspective. After you have done that, ask yourself: “Why didn’t this work out and how can I do better next time?”
如果說我確實有所成就的話，那也只是因爲我堅信不斷嘗試就會成功。遇到挫折時，你可以暫時把問題放一放，一味糾結不僅無濟於事，有時反倒使情況更糟。先去讀一本好書、見見久未謀面的好友或去戶外騎遊一番；再回頭看待問題，你或許會感到柳暗花明。這樣做後，別忘了多加反省：“爲什麼這個方法會奏效？下次能不能做得更好呢？”This process very well could repeat itself several times depending on the nature of your goal, but if you keep making a firm commitment to continuously improve yourself, you will develop so much that the only option left is success. Consistent hustle always wins.
看你定的是什麼目標，這種方法可以被反覆有效應用。如果你堅定不移地持續提升自己，最後成功肯定非你莫屬。孜孜不倦向來無敵。
